Pain

[LOVEWHO.U.R]

These past two years have been all of that for me...hearty and hell...so many of your lives touched and yet so many in my personal life gone--taken--dead. When you lose someone so close (my mother, my pet therapy dog, and Cody my foster son) it makes this life so much more real.

I don't know if YOU see your life as real as I sometimes see it. Do you see what I see when I read your letters, hear your stories, and imagine your relationships and pain?

Many women want 'The Promised Land.' To them that could be healing or maybe that's being with him...but so many are always looking for happiness and thinking 'The Promised Land' is just around the corner.

~ "The Promised Land always lies on the other side of the wilderness." ~
(Havelock Ellis)

Oh...the wilderness...the path of pain--that road that requires that you leave him--that you face your own fear or loneliness. The street that makes you wonder if you'll ever find another one to love, have sex again, or feel real joy in your heart with.

The wilderness that meanders thru all the places you have been this year...the valley of truth, the river of denial, the desert of lies...

Don't spend time regretting whatever 2009 was for you---if you couldn't leave him yet, if you picked yet another pathological, or if you're still not over him yet. Regret is so wasteful of human energy.

A wise man said "Humans grow thru the metabolism of their own experience." What you lived through was not wasted. It's part of how you will grow and how 2010 will be a healthier and healing year for you.

Women ask me all the time, "What can I do to help other women in the area of pathological love relationships?" Your own self growth and healing is the greatest service you can give the world and other women. What you invest in yourself is never wasted or lost. God is the God of Economy--He recycles everything--even your pain. Your pain heals the next woman.

Sandra Brown..@

http://saferelationshipsmagazine.com/

[Glad2bfree]

WOW........Thanks LWUR! That touched me. It really touched my soul. Thank you for posting that!